Please tell me that it's just in my head!!!
I can't help but feel like large families are looked down upon. I am frustrated to some extent with the questions "How many kids do you have????!!!!!!!" and "That baby's a girl too!!!!!! WOW what are you going to do?" I felt particularily offended yesterday during a birthday party that we went to. Our family took up an entire table, and there were alot of people whom I knew from high school, and just growing up in general but haven't seen in awhile. I felt like we were the side show freaks. Our kids were behaving very well and were very polite and well mannered but people just couldn't help but stare. We left the party after an hour b/c I couldn't stand it. Here I am....already emotional b/c well...Kendell is doing that to me, and so upset. Needless to say...it wasn't fun. I can only imagine what other families feel who have more kids than us. What is the magic number of acceptance in society? Is three ok, four....well I am sure not five!!!! What do you think? Maybe it is all in my head. Or maybe I just have to think of a new punchline.
posted by Erin @ 3:22 PM
4 Comments:
"How many kids do you have????!!!!!!!"
I lost track after 4.....
Not enough!
"That baby's a girl too!!!!!! WOW what are you going to do?"
Buy stock in girl clothes.
Love her just like the rest of 'em.
Try to figure out where all these babies are coming from. Want to explain it to me?
I think it's a little in your head, but a lot of reality. I think you're bothered by it so much because it goes back to your deep desire for "acceptance". IMHO, it all comes back to the view of whether or not children are viewed as blessings or burdens. This even applies to Christians as well. I can't count the times when Christian moms have talked negatively about their kids, have stopped having kids at 1 or 2 because they "just can't handle it" or would "go crazy", or just talk about parenting in a burdensome way. Keep your head up, Erin. You know you are doing what God has called us to as far as having children & believing them to be blessings. You should be proud of your family size. Maybe people were staring because they couldn't believe how well-behaved the girls are. I think the magic number of acceptance in our society, sadly, is about 3 or less {although I get a lot of strange looks when I tell people that WE want more kids}. I'm sorry you had such an uncomfortable time at the party. ;-(
{{{hugs}}}...oh, i mean: 5-5-5-5-5
Beck
I know how you feel!! We have had countless comments like those and like what Bec wrote, only that one usually sounds like "Don't you know how that happens?" Whenever a comment is made like that one when my mom is around she always turns to them and says "Yes and they enjoy it!" Lol I have to chuckle at the look on their faces after that!! Recently I have had a few good comments made (mostly by much older women) so I try and take those to heart. That's also why I try and remember to make pleasant comments to mothers no matter how big the family (1 or 8!!) because we all know how hard it is to parent already with out all that!! Which reminds me! You are doing a good job! You have lovely girls, and I think it's wonderful that God has choosen to bless you with an abundance!! :0)
five kids? what a freek!
Ya know what Erin... God has given you a wonderful family, so don't let people's stupid comments and questions bother you! Hold your head high and be proud of your growing family (of girls ;0P) no matter what anyone says!
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